So I did it. I fell into the social media rabbit hole looking at profile after profile of my mom friends and even complete stranger moms who just seem to have it all together. With every scroll I felt myself starting to judge them or question their lives. How are they going on vacations and buying high end bags or clothes for every day of the week? Why is it so easy for them to bounce back to their post-baby bodies and I’m here working my ass off every morning? How does she always look so put together? Who has time for that when you have kids? I felt my insecurity monster getting worked up and I just stopped. I turned my phone off, took a deep breath, and silently told myself to shut up.
These are the times I not only have to check my attitude, but I also need to forgive myself. No one is perfect so why am I expecting myself to be? Insecurity can be such a beast and honestly brings out the ugliest part of ourselves. Aside from only catching everyone’s highlight reel on social media, it’s also none of my business if the truth is that not everything is all sunshine and rainbows in their lives off camera. And if it is, well then good for them! Seriously, at my core, I want everyone to be living their best life so why do I allow myself to fall into the trap of comparison?
My mom once said that her 30's were some of the most insecure years of her life. The 20's are when we are figuring ourselves out, living life without many cares. Then the 30's hit and bam! We suddenly start to evaluate and question ourselves when it comes to our status, our income, our material posessions, etc. After some extensive heart-to-hearts with some of my amazing girlfriends, I realized I’m not alone in falling into a place of unconscious judgement and insecurity. But the real question is, are you genuinely happy? My answer is yes, yes, yes! My life is nowhere near perfect or even close to what I had envisioned for myself many years ago, but it’s better! Everything that is mine right now, is meant to be for me. This is in no way bragging, I am just purely thankful for the life I am living and for those that I’m surrounded by. It’s so easy to compare yourself to others but it’s so much more satisfying to work on being thankful for what you have first. Once you compile your huge list of gratitude, (and trust me, you’ll easily be able to list things off if you really try) you start wishing for others to be just as fortunate as you are.
So if you’re someone who has fallen into the comparison trap like I did, I challenge you today to step away from social media and write down at least 10 things you are grateful for. I bet you will instantly feel that insecurity begin to wash away and feel more at peace with yourself. And if you want an even bigger challenge, every morning or night, write at least one thing you’re grateful for in your own life, and one thing you’re happy for in someone else’s life. Keep your eye out on the positives and life will be that much sweeter.
Photo Cred: Crystal from Studio Salty